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I feel like just as we are beginning to get a handle on things with Violet we're shaking it all up again. But change is good right? Trying to focus on the positive:
- Violet will have three sweet and adorable children as playmates - ages six, four, and two.
- I will get that crazy excited look of pure joy when I come home from work that she usually reserves for the Hubster.
- I will get help with putting the babe to sleep and with the night time wakings.
- Violet will become more independent and comfortable with other people. Maybe she'll even learn to crawl! (I always have trouble letting her struggle and just end up helping her get things)
- Hopefully we'll get into more of a routine as she will be waking at the same time each day.
- Her babysitter is a wonderful patient person who was a former elementary school teacher and has raised three polite, happy, intelligent, and independent children.
Will she be okay?
Of course I know that she will survive, but my heart is still breaking a little bit. (Okay a lot.) I think Daniel Stern, narrator of one of my favorite shows, The Wonder Years, said it best:
Change is never easy. You fight to hold on; you fight to let go.
Oh I am feeling your pain. I went back to work at the beginning of the month and had/have the same concerns. Hang in there. Everyone tells me that it gets easier :)
ReplyDeleteohh it's hard at first, but it does get easier! My son loves daycare now and as soon as he get's there, he's waving me off saying "seeya" - he's 18 months now.
ReplyDeleteYou can do it and Violet will be great. I left my son (now 8 months) to go back to work a few months ago, and it has been fine. He stays with my mom or my mother-in-law (they take turns) during the day, and he always gives me a huge grin when I come home in the evenings. He still loves me just as much. I'm still the one who is most able to soothe him when he's upset and he is still more attached to me and my hubs than anyone else.I want him to be an independent, well-adjusted little boy who can take anything in stride.
ReplyDeleteI hope this doesn't come out the wrong way, but I think children need to see that their parents have lives and some interests that don't revolve around them. That's healthy for everybody.
The first week might be hard, but you will both settle in a routine and that will be that. You're a great mom - you can do it!
Change is so hard. I hope you both transition quickly into your new routine and soon it will feel easy again.
ReplyDeleteLauren, I am thinking and praying for you! I JUST went through this (went back to work on January 3). It was hard, hard, hard. I was so upset the night before I almost made myself sick. It does get easier, but so far I wouldn't say it is easy. We love our babies and we weren't designed to leave them and be OK with it. But, I have gotten into a routine, it doesn't choke me up anymore to leave her. I just appreciate our time together and make the most of every minute. And, it does feel good to be in the professional world again! Thinking of you!!
ReplyDeleteyes, she will cry. But believe it would be great for her to have a constant playdate. I also noticed that my son did things that he copied from other kids (singing, playing new games, even crawling). I know is not ideal but maybe is a good thing.
ReplyDeleteI went through this three weeks ago. My daughter never cried when I left her at daycare so yours may not either. The first week was hard, I'm not gonna lie. It gets easier and all the positives you listed are real. Don't forget that.
ReplyDeleteYou can do it and Violet will be great. I left my son (now 8 months) to go back to work a few months ago, and it has been fine. He stays with my mom or my mother-in-law (they take turns) during the day, and he always gives me a huge grin when I come home in the evenings. He still loves me just as much. I'm still the one who is most able to soothe him when he's upset and he is still more attached to me and my hubs than anyone else.I want him to be an independent, well-adjusted little boy who can take anything in stride.
ReplyDeleteI hope this doesn't come out the wrong way, but I think children need to see that their parents have lives and some interests that don't revolve around them. That's healthy for everybody.
The first week might be hard, but you will both settle in a routine and that will be that. You're a great mom - you can do it!